Pragmatic or Idealistic?

So, it's no small secret that I really, REALLY love Taylor Swift.

But the more I listen to her songs, the more I realize that she really doesn't have this thing in her called "Pragmatism".

I mean, she is pragmatic when it comes to her music and her image, but when it comes to love - she is such a sucker for a nice guy on the first two dates.

The things she sings about: the dancing in the rain in her best dress, the Superman that'll come to take her away, the best friend who'll ditch his girlfriend for her... all those things won't happen.

Or so I believe.

Basically, she's an Idealistic Lover. She has the perfect idea of who the One is - or should be - and she is willing to date guys who express interest in her at the drop of a hat. Just to find The One. And when it turns out he's not The One, she gets emotional and writes at least three songs about that guy.

John Mayer - Dear John, Superman, The Story of Us

Joe Jonas - Forever and For Always, Better Than Revenge, Tell Me Why.

I believe there are two kinds of lovers in this world: the Pragmatic lover and the Idealistic lover.

DEFINITION:

An Idealistic Lover, noun, is a person who thinks that there is only one true love, and the *SPARK* must be there, and sometimes he/she believes there is such a thing as love at first sight, and if there's no kiss in the rain, it's not a good future.

You can't have feelings for more than one person at the same time. It has to be ONE and ONE only.

There must be romance, no big fights or arguments, you have to test the person and he must know you close to 100% and you mustn't have any secrets between you both.

Basically, someone who has watched too many Jennifer Aniston/Katherine Heigl movies.

A Pragmatic Lover, noun, is on the other hand, is aware of his weaknesses. He knows people don't see the good in him sometimes. So it's more of "who will accept him"? It's not a case of taking the second-best, it's knowing that love can be developed and is not a case of Love At First Sight.

He may like two or more people at the same time. Hopefully he won't be a jerk by dating all of them - but a combination of their qualities that attract him would be perfect.

It doesn't matter if there are big fights. Arguments can always be resolved. You can keep secrets from him, as long as you come back, and your heart at the end is still with him at least 85%.

Most of us are more or less one or the other. We may have a few qualities of the other, but for the most part, we're either a Pragmatic Lover or an Idealistic Lover.

Which one are you?

PRAGMATIC:

"What you gonna offer now?"

IDEALISTIC:

"And I hope you don't save some other girl, don't forget, don't forget, about me..."

Which one are you?

Who Do You Love?

Who Do You Love?

Do you love someone who is exciting, spontaneous, lively, funny and loud?

Do you love someone who is homely, quiet, shy and loves to read than party?

Do you love someone who is sarcastic, bitchy, and critical of everyone?

Do you love someone who is completely random, but is actually thoughtful and contemplative?

Do you love someone who is proud, strong and confident in his skills and abilities?

Do you love someone who is soft, deferring, indecisive, and confusing?

Do you love someone who is kind, gentle, caring and generally nice?

Sometimes, you think you love a certain person for his type, a certain kind, but maybe it's not so simple. Maybe it's a combination of various types, across various kinds of people. There's no one else like that in your life, so treasure that person for everything he or she is. Don't think you can find someone else like him or her ever again.

Who do you love?

Fearless

In life, it's so easy to get scared.

There are so many things that can happen.

"What if you don't make it?"

"What if something bad happens?"

"What if you lose everything that you are?"

And no shortage of people who tell you that.

I believe that is how independence is forged - by seeing the What If, and being forced to live and survive on your own.

And because sometimes you have no one to rely on... it can get pretty rough.

I wonder if sometimes you'll miss your job, family, friends, and the times you've hung out with them, because your heart lies here.

I wonder if you'll get scared because they're not around you.

I wonder if you'll have self-doubts and questions, because the path ahead is so unknown.

All the same... I agree with the belief that in life, you have to get out of your comfort zone, to experience something new, to live life while you are young. God knows I need to move to USA or Canada now, away from this country which I feel is too small for what I want to do.

(If only my parents would agree to do something about it!!)

It's a good thing to want to break free to change your situation. Great things have happened to people who just decided, one day, to pack, move and work hard toward what they want.

Just to name a few: Ashley Isham, Corinne May, Taylor Swift.

I think, in the end, you should just go where your heart desires and where you think is the best for you.

Sometimes it's better to block out the What If. Be confident.

Don't be scared of the unknown, just be cautious of it.

Keep your friends and family in your heart.

Think of the success you'll achieve and what you'll become after you emerge from this, like steel tempered by fire!

To you, I want to say this: Be fearless.

Fearless

This MP3 was found at Dilandau MP3

This Place About To Blow! (Part II)

As promised...

These are the photos we took last weekend while clubbing! (thanks to Issac's blog)

Before hitting the clubs, we headed out to one of the Chinese restaurants nearby for some supper for nourishment! They serve fantastic pineapple fried rice and Szechuan soup!

ISSAC and ME!

MELVIN AND ME (God what a camwhore)

IVAN AND ME... I hate my hair here.

The camwhore strikes again.

Why can't he make a proper face?

ISSAC WITH MARCO, his boyfriend

THE POWER OF THREE (will set us free??)

And... WE'RE IN DA CLUB!

CL AND ISSAC

MELVIN, what are you doing?

I love IVAN'S look here ("what shall I do next?")

Party Animals!

I think it was "On The Floor" got me moving...

ISSAC AND ME all tired out!

MARCO, IVAN, ME, and MELVIN

What songs do I love now?

Jennifer Lopez's On The Floor (feat. Pitbull) --> Currently Billboard No. 5 as of 16th Mar!

As well as my resident Party Girl:

Ke$ha's BLOW --> Currently Billboard No. 10 as of 16th Mar!

These are really good videos. J Lo's video is sexy and hot and shows off her chops at AGE 41, while Ke$ha's video is funny and hilarious! (note the mid-video dialogue!)

(Though of course nothing compares to Lady Gaga's epic videos.)

It's another weekend already? Time passes when you're having fun. Have a great weekend everybody!