But the more I listen to her songs, the more I realize that she really doesn't have this thing in her called "Pragmatism".
I mean, she is pragmatic when it comes to her music and her image, but when it comes to love - she is such a sucker for a nice guy on the first two dates.
The things she sings about: the dancing in the rain in her best dress, the Superman that'll come to take her away, the best friend who'll ditch his girlfriend for her... all those things won't happen.
Or so I believe.
Basically, she's an Idealistic Lover. She has the perfect idea of who the One is - or should be - and she is willing to date guys who express interest in her at the drop of a hat. Just to find The One. And when it turns out he's not The One, she gets emotional and writes at least three songs about that guy.
John Mayer - Dear John, Superman, The Story of Us
Joe Jonas - Forever and For Always, Better Than Revenge, Tell Me Why.
I believe there are two kinds of lovers in this world: the Pragmatic lover and the Idealistic lover.
DEFINITION:
An Idealistic Lover, noun, is a person who thinks that there is only one true love, and the *SPARK* must be there, and sometimes he/she believes there is such a thing as love at first sight, and if there's no kiss in the rain, it's not a good future.
You can't have feelings for more than one person at the same time. It has to be ONE and ONE only.
There must be romance, no big fights or arguments, you have to test the person and he must know you close to 100% and you mustn't have any secrets between you both.
Basically, someone who has watched too many Jennifer Aniston/Katherine Heigl movies.
A Pragmatic Lover, noun, is on the other hand, is aware of his weaknesses. He knows people don't see the good in him sometimes. So it's more of "who will accept him"? It's not a case of taking the second-best, it's knowing that love can be developed and is not a case of Love At First Sight.
He may like two or more people at the same time. Hopefully he won't be a jerk by dating all of them - but a combination of their qualities that attract him would be perfect.
It doesn't matter if there are big fights. Arguments can always be resolved. You can keep secrets from him, as long as you come back, and your heart at the end is still with him at least 85%.
Most of us are more or less one or the other. We may have a few qualities of the other, but for the most part, we're either a Pragmatic Lover or an Idealistic Lover.
Which one are you?
PRAGMATIC:
"What you gonna offer now?"
IDEALISTIC:
"And I hope you don't save some other girl, don't forget, don't forget, about me..."
Which one are you?
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