What's the point?

Recently, two of my extremely good friends have gone through break-ups. Very very violent ones, that resulted in sadness and tears and late nights and many text messages and calls. And another friend is in turmoil about his existing relationship.

What's the point of a relationship?

What's the point if all you do is spend your time, your energy, your money and most importantly, your emotions, on the other half, only to have him break your heart in an instant?

To date, the longest one out of these three couples (or ex-couples for two) is six months. Honestly. Can a gay relationship even last a year?

(Of course it can. I know a couple who has been together for 8 yrs now. And my old teacher from photography club has been in a committed monogamous relationship, nay, marriage, for 13 years now. I'm just saying...)

Is there any point to getting into a relationship? It's a lot to go through, a lot of pain. You'll still be sad. Already, being rejected on a date leaves a sour taste in my mouth.

If I want to cry, and be sad, at least I'd want it to be over someone whom I know will be sad and cry for me too. I want it to be over someone I have shared enough of my memories and time with to know it has changed us both for the better.

And you don't know if that's happened. You don't know if he's as sad for you as you are for him. If he loved you as much as you loved him. If things have changed for the better or instead, for the worse. And vice versa.

What's the point?